On the other hand, when a woman acknowledges him for all the things he’s doing well, he will almost certainly want to deepen the relationship and stay in it. We’re supposed to be emotional robots with no feelings or desires and just accept anything a guy is doing without complaint? You create a relationship with those qualities by inspiring those things within the relationship.
The problem with neediness is that instead of inspiring all of those positive relationship qualities, the “needy person” acts as if their partner is denying them those good relationship qualities…
(FYI, we have a whole chapter on this in our new book “He’s Not That Complicated: How to Crack a Man’s Romantic Code to Get the Relationship You Want“) Even the kindest, most well-meaning, most empathetic guy won’t be able to satisfy a woman who acts needy the majority of the time. I would be pretty surprised if you never had a needy guy around you. Making someone else responsible for your emotions is a key ingredient in creating a toxic relationship type dynamic, so it’s very important to guard against doing that (as well as recognize when others are doing that towards you).
Could you imagine what you would want to do if that needy guy was texting you right now? The best way to not be needy is to Good article, Eric.
We used to skype every day after I came home from work. One day he just said he is going to see his sister. But the next day he was not going anywhere but we did not skype at all. But then every other following day he would just want to skype really later in the day (like 8pm, even on weekend ) and then few days later not at all. And I miss him, I miss seeing him and hearing his voice. And that I would like to play some game with him or anything he wants.