And we’re all competing to see who has the best life with the best boyfriend or girlfriend having the best meals on the best vacations with the best families and the best dogs. But just as quickly as I might scroll through Instagram and see 100 people liked a photo of me, and that makes me feel good, the next moment I might see all of my friends hanging out the night before and wonder why I wasn’t invited and feel extremely lonely about that.
Now more than ever there are some major highs and really depressing lows, and they come so close together. Getting back to this idea of addiction: You took an informal survey of your friends and found that 10% of them had checked their phone during sex at some point. You’d think [admitting some of these things] would be embarrassing.
[In her book Stolz cites a study that found college students are 40% less empathetic than they were 30 years ago, thanks to on-screen interactions that make it easier to say mean things and act before considering the consequences of our actions.] You talk about a breakup that you had that was induced by Twitter, texting and Facebook.
Do you think that social media leads to more breakups or just makes them happen faster than maybe they otherwise would? Social media has definitely accentuated and accelerated breakups. Is it cheating if I gchat with my ex about a time we had together? Is it cheating for me to drunk text my ex at three in the morning? You can fool yourself into saying it’s not really cheating when you’re just texting.
If someone doesn’t text us back immediately, we feel like we’re not important enough for them to respond.
Why do we connect these insignificant messages so much to our self worth?
My favorite thing about Face Time is literally you should just be on the phone with someone looking in a mirror because all I do when I Face Time is look at myself.